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  1. 1. What is your current relationship status

    • Single (by choice)
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    • In a relationship (living apart)
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    • In a relationship (living together)
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Yes, fantastic creations. But if they don't pay the bills then time to get a proper job.

Sorry Romao, but a career in Lego probably isn't that well suited to austerity.

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I understand what you're saying, Lee. BUt didn't close down the enterprise due to lack of projects. The reasons were quite different.

I'm very confident I can secure two or three more projects in 2013. Those should do me good for another 12 months. So I think in the short term I can still salvage this career. After that I'll probably need to consider doing something else (I've had offers to work directly for LEGO, but I really don't want to move to a small town in the North of Denmark).

But it's one of the reasons why my life seems so unrecognizable these days

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Whats your job?

My 'career' up until recently was in state funded local council development and maintenance - specifically the road network in my area and the negotiation of fees and costs with contractors (builders). It was basically getting more and more bullshit so I quit. I'm fortunate in that I have a well paid missus and an old family business to prop me up when it's convenient.

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Those lego projects are stunning Romao! I think the cathedral's my favourite!

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I understand what you're saying, Lee. BUt didn't close down the enterprise due to lack of projects. The reasons were quite different.

I'm very confident I can secure two or three more projects in 2013. Those should do me good for another 12 months.

If that turns out to be the case then the sincerest good luck to you, you are more fortunate than you know.

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I would love to be employed full time but would not bat an eye if I was to find someone where it became possible for me to be a stay at home mom.

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I know Ren, even in these modern times it's surely still one of the most natural things in the world for a mother to have an urge and gut desire to stay at home with her children.

Younger inexperienced minds (and I dare say a few older ones, too) might feel combative toward such 'outdated' sentiment, but I know you understand completely.

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Romão, bloody brilliant work!

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I know Ren, even in these modern times it's surely still one of the most natural things in the world for a mother to have an urge and gut desire to stay at home with her children.

Younger inexperienced minds (and I dare say a few older ones, too) might feel combative toward such 'outdated' sentiment, but I know you understand completely.

With the inflated price of daycare in this country, many women (or in some cases men) have chosen at least for the time being to stop working simply because the job they had earned them less then they pay for daycare. It's simply not practical for them to work.

And there is nothing wrong with wanting to be there for your kids as much as possible. God knows that's a full time job.

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It's not an outdated sentiment to want to be with your children, but to delegate all housework and child rearing to the woman while the man goes out and does the hard work is.

As Ren said, though, there's nothing wrong with being a trophy wife. Some people just have the means to strut that lifestyle.

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It's not an outdated sentiment to want to be with your children, but to delegate all housework and child rearing to the woman while the man goes out and does the hard work is.

And yet there's some women out there including Ren who would actually be happy to take on that role even in this day and age, which is what I just said in my previous post. It's only controversial up until the point your children arrive by which point it can suddenly seem like the most natural thing in the world.

That second paragraph of yours though, Koray. Oooo bit of an own goal!

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It's not an outdated sentiment to want to be with your children, but to delegate all housework and child rearing to the woman while the man goes out and does the hard work is.

And yet there's some women out there including Ren who would actually be happy to take on that role even in this day and age, which is what I just said in my previous post. It's only controversial up until the point your children arrive by which point it can suddenly seem like the most natural thing in the world.

That second paragraph of yours though, Koray. Oooo bit of an own goal!

Those women must be freed from the brainwashed oppression of tyrannical traditionalism!

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There's people who do believe exactly that, which is fine and good. Women who reject the old arrangement have every bloody right to. But in reality it's just not the case for every woman, every family. For me, there's something endearing about women who continue to embrace the mother and home maker role in this day and age and dare I say, attractive.

The cosmopolitan media would like to give the impression it's a deeply outdated tradition which should be frowned upon and discouraged , but the truth is that families and homes everywhere are still very much practicing its benefits, because they very much want to. And because you know, it's often practical.

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Then there are those women who want their cake and eat it too by working a full time job and having three kids just so she can prove she's a career/family driven superwoman even though the husband works for a decent salary. My former editor was one of these types and it gave me the shits because she was in and out of the office attending to her kids every other hour of the day, all the while taking her repressed frustrations out on me for just doing my job. I dread the day she returns from maternity leave again.

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Aye. I know someone the same, but actually admire her for it. Sometimes when I see her, juggling work with shopping, collecting the kids from school, making them all dinner, cleaning the house, I think, How on earth does she do it?!

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See that's exactly it. I'm the first person to want a full time job but I'm also the first person to want to be a happy homemaker, raise babies and cook and clean for my man. I'm very traditional and I think some things get lost, like femininity, when a woman is too powerful.

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Claire would prefer to quit her job at this point. She doesn't go back till June but she already doesn't really want to.

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I had the luck of having my mom raising me full time. I can understand how difficult it can be in many situations, but the benefits as a child are quite obvious to me

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See that's exactly it. I'm the first person to want a full time job but I'm also the first person to want to be a happy homemaker, raise babies and cook and clean for my man. I'm very traditional and I think some things get lost, like femininity, when a woman is too powerful.

There's nothing particularly wrong with it if that's what you want to do, but I was approaching the situation more from the male perspective. There are those that believe a woman should only do that and nothing more, which is frankly, in my opinion, an outdated and silly conception of a mother.

And if I could be a trophy husband, Lee, I would ;)

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If my wife made enough for me to stay home, I would.

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I had the luck of having my mom raising me full time. I can understand how difficult it can be in many situations, but the benefits as a child are quite obvious to me

I bounced back and forth between my parents from the age of eleven, although I have zero contact with my dad now.

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My mom basically raised me and my sister by herself.

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All The Best JWFans Have Daddy Issues

How can I have issues with a man I haven't seen or heard of since 1987?

You call him, and start an argument with him.

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My dad stuck around. I just never liked him much. He is a strange and cruel person.

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My dad's awesome. My mom's the crazy one

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Words cannot describe what my mom means to me.

A part of my life will be so empty once she's gone.

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I think some things get lost, like femininity, when a woman is too powerful.

I think that is utterly ridiculous. Or maybe we understand "feminity" differently.

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I kinda see Ren's point.

I'm certainly drawn to strong women, independent, forceful women, but there has to be a softer side somewhere.

It's nice to take care of someone, but also to be taken care of.

I would not call myself traditional though. Too pragmatic for that.

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You just changed the thing from women to men.

Going back to women, I'm very attracted to strong, almost adventurous women who have a compassionate side.

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My mom basically raised me and my sister by herself.

Yeah, same here. I have a better contact with my dad right now, but he's a stranger in many ways.

Karol

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I am attracted to highly intelligent, confident, powerful yet sensitive, romantic, chauvinistic men

Forgot chivalric too lol

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I am attracted to highly intelligent, confident, powerful yet sensitive, romantic, chauvinistic men

I wouldn't have a chance with a girl like you, then. I'd fit two of those characteristics at most

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