Relationship status

[#SnowyVernalSpringsEternal 12,384]

Alex is right. If you seem interesting to them, you have a shot. If she isnt then nothing you say or do will make any difference.

[hornist 1,261]

I changed my status to married(today). Well, shit happens.

I'm sorry, had to share this photo. It's ALMOST funny.

[Jeff 10]

Congrats!

[Quintus 6,494]

I changed my status to married(today). Well, shit happens.

I'm sorry, had to share this photo. It's ALMOST funny.

Another one bites the dust!

Seriously, congratulations and best of luck

[hornist 1,261]

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[Joe Brausam 234]

Is it out of style to ask someone out anymore?

I've been single by choice for really my whole life thus far. Back in high school there were 2 girls that I asked out that nicely said no, which is fine because I'm still friends with these people nearly 10 years after the fact. One girl asked me out in high school, which was rather odd...I said no, I had no real interest in her.

I graduated high school in 2006, and since then have not asked a girl out, nor have I had much desire to. There was one friend in college who I would have loved to ask out, but i chickened out and missed the boat on that. Again, fine, because I'm still very good friends with her.

Really, my problem is that I'm very picky. I'm happy alone, and seeing so many others around me not being happy in their relationships is very off putting, why would I want to add a layer of drama to my life if I'm so happy currently? So I decided that I wouldn't bother at all with women for a relationship until I found someone that could add to my life in a positive way. I didn't want to be in a relationship just to have someone, I was in the mindset that a relationship would have to have the potential to enhance my life and my happiness in order to be worthwhile. When you think that way it gets to be very difficult to find someone you're truly happy with.

Well, the time has come, I found someone who I feel can honestly be a positive addition to my life. So what's the big deal? Well I'm scared to death of rejection for one thing!

I have known her for a little over two years, but we've never spent any real time together. Since March 2011 though we have been talking very regularly, mostly through that fun little game Words With Friends at first, then through Facebook chat, then through text. It's not uncommon for us to have 3 seperate conversations with eachother going on at once! It's fun and I appreciate that we have that much to say to eachother that it never gets dull. We've gotten pretty close, very open. I just positively adore her. Really one of the sweetest and most well meaning people I've ever had the opportunity to know. I haven't been this struck by someone since probably 2005! So I'm taking her to downtown Princeton for the day, the last weekend of this month. We planned this trip back in October, because she's still in college (3 hours away, not so fun, but at least it's easy to get to Pennsylvania from here...) and back then it really was purely as friends. As far as she knows it is still purely as friends, but my intention now is to ask her out at the end of the day if it goes well and i can tell she had a good time.

I've mentioned this plan to a couple friends, a few are supportive, a few think it's a bit of a silly plan. Surprisingly no one has ever mentioned the distance thing for the majority of the year. I guess distance really isn't that big of a deal. However, a lot of my friends are telling me that no one really asks people out anymore! That sort of blows my mind. A lot of folks are saying "well really, the way to do it is hang out a few times and see where it leads. Asking someone out is old fashioned." This obviously isn't an easy thing for me to do, because if I don't ask her out on this trip the next time I'd even have a shot at seeing her is in March! And I'll be damned if i ask her out online. So I have to do this if I don't want to miss the boat.

I don't know if she's interested. I'm not even expecting her to say yes, but I would be so incredibly happy if she did. I hope asking her out and then her saying no wouldn't make things too awkward between us, or ruin what could possibly have been a very fun day. I don't know...

Is asking someone out too old fashioned? Is my plan a bad idea?

[Henry B 51]

It sounds like you already have the right attitude. Go ahead with your plans and don't worry about the fear of rejection. Some people are shy and may appear uninterested, but in reality will say yes in a heartbeat. As for asking her out... I think you should do it if you really think it's the natural way to go. If you're trying to fit yourself into some stilted social mold, the classic gentleman or whatever, then forget it. But when you say that this is your only chance to ask her out until March, it gives me pause. If you're not going to see her for two months, does it matter much whether she says yes or no? I wouldn't attach too much importance to the relationship label, the proof of commitment. I don't think it's so bad to be in that intermediate stage of mutual interest/flirtation. Going "official" without getting comfortable with each other might be disastrous. It's illusory, like propping something up because it's not ready to stand on its own. I think it's the same as being in a good relationship and saying "I love you" without really meaning it. And boy does that happen a lot. I've been there. Once you do something fake like that, it's very difficult, if not impossible, to come crawling back from it.

Point being... if you truly want to ask her out, go for it. If you sense that you're in any way rushing or dramatizing, reconsider it. Just tell her you like her. Express an interest. And don't worry. Your lack of experience means nothing unless you let it.

[A24 5,155]

You both seem to get along great on the internet. Is continuing the existing vibe/connection/conversation in the real world, while sharing a bottle of wine, a weird thing to do? Seems only natural for me. With the level of enthusiasm she's showing, I can't imagine she would say no to it.

Alex

[Jill Sandwich 11,165]

Must be mating season.

[#SnowyVernalSpringsEternal 12,384]

years ago, after agonizing for moths I asked a female colleague out for a date. She refused, and it was really ackward afterwards.

I still don't regret it though.

[Joe Brausam 234]

You both seem to get along great on the internet. Is continuing the existing vibe/connection/conversation in the real world, while sharing a bottle of wine, a weird thing to do? Seems only natural for me. With the level of enthusiasm she's showing, I can't imagine she would say no to it.

Alex

It's not a weird thing at all, in fact we're both looking forward to seeing eachother. The only reason this developed online was because of the distance during the school year, but before this we had always known eachother in person. This is just the first time it's just us.

Henry gives very good advice. Really, the reason I want to move it along fast and ask her out is because I'm scared that if I don't I'll miss out and she'll move on. But perhaps you're right, Henry. Maybe just expressing interest is enough right now. It's better than never telling her at all, and safer than asking her out. We'll see how it goes, but that makes sense.

And it very well might be awkward if she said no, but the viewpoint I have of the is - I have no desire for it to be awkward, but if she feels it makes it too difficult to be friends like we have been then perhaps it isn't a frienship worth holding onto. I wouldn't regret it either, though. It gets a load off my chest and would put closure on it no matter how it turns out. If she says no then it's safe to get past her and move on, if she says "I need to think about this" then that shows she likely wouldn't have her heart in it even if she ended up saying yes later, and if she says yes, then wonderful!

[Datameister 2,586]

My latest dating conundrum at the moment is a woman I work with. Er, you might say I work for her, as she's one of the managers for the department I work in. This is unfortunate, since she's an incredibly cute, lively, positive person who's (I think) one year younger than me, and I could swear she's been flirting with me just a little. At the very least, she thinks highly of me. If not for the fact that she's one of my managers, I would have asked her out already...but that is, of course, not the case.

The good news is that I've been hoping to transfer to a slightly different department within the next six months, in which case the issue would no longer exist, and I could feel free to ask her out. We'll see what happens.

[Trent B 354]

My latest dating conundrum at the moment is a woman I work with. Er, you might say I work for her, as she's one of the managers for the department I work in. This is unfortunate, since she's an incredibly cute, lively, positive person who's (I think) one year younger than me, and I could swear she's been flirting with me just a little. At the very least, she thinks highly of me. If not for the fact that she's one of my managers, I would have asked her out already...but that is, of course, not the case.

The good news is that I've been hoping to transfer to a slightly different department within the next six months, in which case the issue would no longer exist, and I could feel free to ask her out. We'll see what happens.

Good luck with that Joe.

[Xander Harris 9,673]

Single and loving it.

[Brónach 1,330]

still single and I dunno what to think about it

[BloodBoal 8,711]

[Jill Sandwich 11,165]

My latest dating conundrum at the moment is a woman I work with. Er, you might say I work for her, as she's one of the managers for the department I work in. This is unfortunate, since she's an incredibly cute, lively, positive person who's (I think) one year younger than me, and I could swear she's been flirting with me just a little. At the very least, she thinks highly of me. If not for the fact that she's one of my managers, I would have asked her out already...but that is, of course, not the case.

The good news is that I've been hoping to transfer to a slightly different department within the next six months, in which case the issue would no longer exist, and I could feel free to ask her out. We'll see what happens.

Oh yeah office sex. I love it on the copy machine.

[#SnowyVernalSpringsEternal 12,384]

Yeah, show her who's really the boss!

Ok I'll shut up now....

[alicebrallice 134]

single and ready to mingle! hah but no, not really looking... I'm pretty picky, not necesserily about looks but about personality. some (a lot) guys just seem to think girls love the macho-type but I couldn't hate that type more.

(and I wouldn't say I'm a geek, but I love lotr, hp and I really miss playing ocarina of time )

[Jay 46,241]

Did you like the Ocarina of Time remake for the 3DS?

[alicebrallice 134]

I've been meaning to take a closer look at the remake but I just haven't gotten the time to do it yet. Maybe I should take some time to check it out, is it any good?

[Jay 46,241]

I dunno, I don't have a 3DS yet, but every one seems to like it. I'm more anxious to get Super Mario 3D Land personally

[alicebrallice 134]

I'm really not a big fan of 3D... at least not in the movies. avatar was pretty awesome in 3D, I must admit... but other than that, I tend to get unfocused. but I am planning on seeing the hobbit in 3D, I read it's gonna be amazing.

how about 3DS, is the 3D a whole lot different to the one in the cinemas or TVs?

[Jay 46,241]

I don't like 3D either. Avatar looked Ok but everything else I've seen was unimpressive. I luckily was able to see Tintin in 2D.

I haven't played with a 3DS too much, but you can turn the 3D feature off whenever you want.

[alicebrallice 134]

so you can turn the 3D off, that's good if you get tired of it

I had this program on my old computer, it had all the best n64 games. I'd love to know what it's called, my friend set it up for me so I don't really remember...

[Jay 46,241]

There's a bunch of N64 emulators out there, there's emulators for every system. Good times.

[Datameister 2,586]

Oh yeah office sex. I love it on the copy machine.

I don't usually work in the office, though we have one nearby...

Also...

THERE'S A GIRL! THERE'S A GIRL POSTING IN THIS THREAD!

Haha, in all seriousness, welcome to the forum, alicebrallice.

[alicebrallice 134]

and I guess you can get the emulators for mac as well?

thanks, datameister:)

[Jay 46,241]

Yea there's emulators for Macs as well. I'm not up on the latest programs but someone here probably is

[#SnowyVernalSpringsEternal 12,384]

She can not be a girl if she is a gamer.

[Brónach 1,330]

I know gamer girls.

[Jill Sandwich 11,165]

There are no girls on the internet.

[A24 5,155]

I can change my avatar and pose as a girl. I already have a genderless name.

There are no girls on the internet.

Ahem! Facebook! I heard it's an ideal place if you wanna hook up with someone.

Alex

[Jill Sandwich 11,165]

Facebook.

Only cam girl bots.

[BLUMENKOHL 1,110]

She can not be a girl if she is a gamer.

There's at least a dozen a women at my workplace making video games. Granted the ratio is 25% female 75% male here, but still.

[#SnowyVernalSpringsEternal 12,384]

That's different. They earn money from it instead of wasting money on it.

[gkgyver 1,647]

Wouldn't the latter preceed and require the former?

[Koray Savas 2,260]

I know a couple girls that play a lot of video games, and not just Nintendo. Most girls play Nintendo.

[Henry B 51]

For some reason, Mario Kart is the girl favorite.

[alicebrallice 134]

it's probably true that most girls, including me, prefer nintendo. I do however enjoy playing halo every now and then!

[Xander Harris 9,673]

I like the Kinect right now. The Dance Centrals and Disneyland games are fun. Chicks dig 'em too. Great party games and I like being active.

[Trent B 354]

You'd be surprised how many girls play Black Ops. I've seen quite a few on there.

[Romão 2,473]

My life is starting to feel like the Cindy Lauper song Girls Just Wanna Have Fun. It's getting harder and harder for them to commit. I feel like a girl talking

[gkgyver 1,647]

I wonder, if most girls are into Nintendo, are most guys into PS/XBox?

Because I never played anything but Nintendo. I did have a PS2, but used it only for the better wrestling games and watching DVDs.

[Koray Savas 2,260]

Back when Nintendo catered to gamers that weren't just families and kids, it meant something. The Wii U is another step in the wrong direction. They're focusing too much on the peripheral than on the core of gaming. Stop messing around with overpriced accessories and controls and just make great games.

[Jay 46,241]

They still do

[Charlie Brigden 7]

Overpriced accessories? What, like Kinect and Move?

[#SnowyVernalSpringsEternal 12,384]

Back when Nintendo catered to gamers that weren't just families and kids, it meant something. The Wii U is another step in the wrong direction. They're focusing too much on the peripheral than on the core of gaming. Stop messing around with overpriced accessories and controls and just make great games.

The Wii was a brilliant concept that broadened the market for games immensely. That is true innovation!

[Xander Harris 9,673]

I'm bringing this over to the video game thread, just because.

[Thor 9,362]

I'm single by choice, and 'passively open' for relationships, if that's possible. Meaning I have no particular need for it right now, but I won't refuse if an opportunity arises. Then again, with that attitude, there won't be many opportunities in the first place.

Never had any longterm relationships in my life. Only short flings and stuff. A few years ago, I used to be heavily into one-night stands (probably because I was somewhat of a national celebrity at the time, and took advantage of the situation), but now that has pretty much dried up too.