Music You Hate, Because Of You!

[#SnowyVernalSpringsEternal 12,388]

Songs, or pieces of music you dislike not because of the music itself, but because of your personal association with them.

My one biggest example:

The song used to be fine. I thought it was rather good, and I liked James Blunts other songs, and like the ones he made after.

Early 2006. The night my then current relationship ended, later it would turn out to be a gift from the gods, but at the time it was pure heartbreak.

After pissing about for moths it finally came to a somewhat amicable end, and I actually felt a sense of relief and pride.

The taxi from the station to my house. That song started to play...I started to fall apart. after 2 minutes I simply asked the driver to pull over and i continued on foot, crying in broad daylight.

It played a lot in the weeks after taht on the radio at work. I had to turn it of, or leave the workplace.

Years later. I'm totally over her and found someone who is not a lying, selfish, manipulative, cheating bitch. The song starts to play on TV... I instinctively grabbed the remote.

Anyone have a song like that?

[Quintus 6,499]

I can't see it, is it You're Beautiful? Official music videos on YouTube aren't yet permitted on mobile devices , for some reason. I always have to search for a less obvious version.

Anyway, to answer your question - I suppose I've been lucky enough to never associate a record with grief. The girlfriend thing has always been okay because those memories are bittersweet since I've never really split with anyone on bad terms. When I hear those old songs I'm filled with mostly positive feelings and I can listen to the words and music with a fond reflection. I sort of appreciate those feelings and I'm glad that I've experienced that aspect of life.

James Blunt is shit, but that debut is a masterpiece pop record, make no mistake. Don't let slags cloud your judgement!

[#SnowyVernalSpringsEternal 12,388]

It's Goodbye My Lover, which was shockingly appropriate that day.

I rather enjoy Mr Blunts other output. And he does not seem to take himself to seriously.

One of that ex's favorite songs was the Brain Adams song from Robin Hood. Thankfully I can still listen to that and Michael Kamen's score without any bad memories.

The Titanic CD still takes me back to the best one-night stand I ever had though.

[Quintus 6,499]

I once got one-night stand head to Goldsmith's First Contact theme I shit you not. My mate was in the other room with her sister and we still laugh about the music to this day - it was BLASTING out of the speakers. Surreal drunken nonsense.

Can't believe it was Goodbye My Lover though - I freaking hate that song, arghhhhh

The Titanic ost is very special to me and not just because it's great a score. First love and all that.

[#SnowyVernalSpringsEternal 12,388]

The Titanic ost is very special to me and not just because it's great a score. First love and all that.

It's brilliant for sex. Starts out slowly and softly for foreplay, then there is the loud and throbbing action music for the actual sex (Think about the last minute or so of Death Of Titanic) and then we go back to soft music for cuddling afterwards.

[Quintus 6,499]

I don't think I've ever had sex to an action cue before. Themes yes, but I've never pounded away to Desert Chase.

[#SnowyVernalSpringsEternal 12,388]

It would be quite distracting.

It was the girls idea even. Normally I don't bring James Horner, John Williams or Jerry Goldsmith into the bedroom.

[Romão 2,473]

I've started a relationship with an absolutely wonderful girl while having my first ever listen to Memoirs of a Geisha, back in 2005. She ended up breaking my heart, but it was a truly healthy, balanced, happy relationship, so not that many bad memories attached. And that particular score is so lovingly erotic, that it was beyong fitting.

On the other hand, I've had another relatiomship with this girl I deeply loved, but turned out to be the worst year of my life. Truly, I was never as mistreated by a woman before, it was constant heartache. One day, on my birthday, she starts playing Light of the Force from ROTJ and she says if there's a piece of music she'd like to offer to me, this would be one. It was touching back then, but I vowed myself to never let her "ruin" that absolutely stunning piece of music. But it is still painful at times. Not because I'm not over her (which I am completely), but because one's body sometimes still recalls the deep emotional pain back in the day, even though the causes of which are no longer relevant

[Koray Savas 2,260]

I have a few songs I hate, just by being forced to hear them over and over due to work. Back at the theater, as an usher, you'd go from theater to theater as the movies ended. At the end of each movie, a "radio" program would play, and it would always be the same songs in the same order. So for your entire shift, you'd be listening to the same song over and over as you worked.

One of them was actually something I liked when I first heard it, but by the end of the night I despised it. DC 101 still plays it on the radio, and whenever it pops up I immediately change the station.

There are a couple others that get used in commercials, to which I immediately change the channel.

[AI 0]

Eternal - Angel of Mine

Was the favorite song of a wonderful, incredibly generous, insightful and intelligent young lady with whom I worked with many years ago. She died at age 29 from complications due to extreme obesity.

That song always makes me tear-up.

(for relevance; I turned her ears toward that song)

[indy4 160]

My first day of high school band, we played Frank Tichelli's "Fortress." I bought it many years later, and to this day whenever I hear it I get nervous. I still love it, but my own issues definitely affect my perception of the piece.

[Melange 448]

After much searching I can't think of any negative connections. But this song certainly brings me back to a relationship.

We ended it amicably so there is nothing painfull evoked by it, but she had this movie and we watched it several times.

[#SnowyVernalSpringsEternal 12,388]

What? When you were like...12?

[Melange 448]

What? When you were like...12?

No, but she clearly did have a rather romantic disney kind of idealism about relationships (hence that movie being one of her favs)

[#SnowyVernalSpringsEternal 12,388]

They usually get over that after being heartbroken a few times and will settle for far less.

[Miguel Andrade 1,727]

My coming together with my ex-wife, 20 years ago had as background the music and sounds of Hook. She also liked Fiddler on the Roof (some of the songs actually), and she would play them whenever she would like to sort of musically please me. Other than those two, she would only listen to pop music, and years later, already married, she would kind of enjoy another Williams piece because it was sung on the CD by Lara Fabian. Otherwise, she doesn't care for classical music.

Now, do I have any problem with Hook, or Fiddler on the Roof, or any other piece of music she might have found of interest (as musak rather than actual music) over the years we spent together? Absolutely not!

The only moment that a work somewhat brings bad memories is the score to A.I. Artificial Inteligence, mainly the softer bits that relate to David and his relationship with Monica. Not because of my ex-wife, and in no way the music is ruined for me. But rather it has for me an additional layer, that is connected with the painful event of loosing a child (an unborn one, but still...) -- something that one will never get over, certainly not me.

[Elmo Lewis 7]

The Beatles' I Wanna Hold Your Hand wouldn't leave my head for weeks after my father passed away. My subconscious must have decided that it expressed my feelings at the time. It felt adequate and the song became an intimate, private way to connect with my mind's image of dad.

Then a year later, Glee used it for that exact same purpose in one of its episodes, ruining the intimacy I had with that song. I can't stand it now. It feels like it was taken away from me and makes my feelings at the time look Glee-like. And that makes me really uncomfortable.

[Jill Sandwich 11,166]

Yeah Nutbush City Limits. I was a dance floor DJ for a few months in 2007 and the crowd always wanted to hear this trashy abomination... oh wait, we're talking a out good music here? Can't think of anything that's been tainted, except maybe for the overuse of Gladiator or Adagio for Strings in whatever medium they're used in. For the latter, why does the director always have to repeat it over and over in different scenes? Did they think it was gold and everything else was shit? It's like it was a meme of itself.

[Richard P 5,303]

I discovered Thomas Newman's Meet Joe Black when I was starting my first year of uni.

It's got some pretty 'lonely' parts, and I can't listen to 'Cold Lamb Sandwich' or 'Someone Else' without thinking about those first 3-4 weeks, when I was trying to get used to uni life and working out how the whole 'life' thing worked.