I will return...

[Sandor 459]

Hi board,

After giving it some thoughts I decided to not give up my involvement with this board. To be honest; I have a lot of good memories here and I don't want it to end. Not this way.

The thing that changed my mind were the comments made by King Mark. He was so correct in his statements that I felt that when someone I don't personally know can ventilate and describe my thoughts so well then there must be something right with this board.

I told you guys things in the past I didn't even tell my close friends. There is an aura of distance here that makes it easy to be open and true and still refrain from direct feedback. Sometimes telling about personal problems and worries can in fact be more relieving on this board because of that distance.

There was a time when any problem could be discussed here without having to worry about someone using it against you. That was a very special time; one which only few messageboards had. People could talk here about sickness, mourning and the death of a loved one without fear of someone abusing that trust.

But I guess the rules have changed. I must accept the fact that this messageboard is now part of the entity that is the Internet. The old messageboard code was great, but in some ways it was too good to be true or real.

When someone used a personal matter of mine against me to 'get a point across' I was hurt deeply, but it was also a wake-up call. Roald; don't be stupid, this is what the Internet is. I think King Mark was very correct in stating that.

And so I will just remain 'on topic' from now. Discussing Harry Potter and Yoda. It's sad really. My relation with Shintara is far from over, and I'm troubled by the fact that it's unclear whether it's going to hurt me in the future or make me very happy. I don't feel I can talk freely about that anymore. Ofcourse there are personal messages to be send, but the feedback from a larger group among the body of members was always insightful, helpful and uplifting. Joe, Stefan, Ren, king mark, Figo and many, many others all have their different perspectives on life and their combined advices and support helped me. Really.

This messageboard is supported by people from different nationalities, religions and backgrounds. It's that diversity that can prove so strengthful at times. In the past I always could count on that divers insight. Now I don't know anymore. There is room for those craving insults and pain on others. The idea that this board deviates from the repetitious slandering and flaming which is present on most other messageboards is, well, just an idea. It's something that I, no we all, have to accept. Somewhere along the way this board lost it's 'virginity' so to speak. I guess it was inevitable. I'm very well aware this is a public board and not a closed meeting for those close at heart. I'm also aware that this board is intended to discuss 'trivial' matters like John Williams, film music or Steven Spielberg. Still; beyond those boundries there was a time when we had a special connection to each other. It was rare and it couldn't last long I reckon.

Please don't regard this post as 'overly-dramatic'. Hey; it's just a messageboard! I feel better now. Maybe I'm seeing things that aren't there or things that were never there. I'm troubled by the latter.

Bye,

Roald

[#SnowyVernalSpringsEternal 10,251]

It's good to see you are back.

Just a pity that you let ONE asshole change your view of this place.

Stefancos-

[King Mark 2,924]

Glad to see you back,and i welcome having been of some help somehow.

K.M.

[Romão 1,931]

Glad to have you with us.

Romao, who in a few days will also share somthing of his personal life with the MB.

[Ricard 1,821]

There was a time when any problem could be discussed here without having to worry about someone using it against you. That was a very special time; one which only few messageboards had. People could talk here about sickness, mourning and the death of a loved one without fear of someone abusing that trust.

Honestly, although we now have more visitors than ever, I don't think the situation has chanched in that regard.

And so I will just remain 'on topic' from now (...) I don't feel I can talk freely about that anymore.

That's up to you. I can only say that I strongly disagree with this attitude.

There is room for those craving insults and pain on others.

No, there was never room for those. I don't know if you're aware that certain individuals are not allowed to post here anymore. And I'm sure that others suspect that they're risking their own membership.

beyond those boundries there was a time when we had a special connection to each other. It was rare and it couldn't last long I reckon.

There was a time when the board had no more than a dozen regular posters.

[Morn 7]

Eh? I'm sorry but I do not see how the actions of 1 or 2 people have changed the atmosphere of the whole board from how it used to be. The board is mostly how it was.

[IrishCal24 0]

You darn well better return! I don't want to be stuck being the only G N' R and Metallica fan on this board.

All joking aside, don't let one jerk affect your posting habits. If it does happen again, just tell that person to piss off! Or better yet, ignore them completely. They're the one with the problem, not you.

[Justin 2]

Sorry to hear that Roald. I don't really know what to say.

Justin

[Guest]

By the way IrishCal; did you see Guns N' Roses at the MTV Music Awards this year? I thought they were great! Just a few weeks ago I saw them live in Belgium. It was fantastic!

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Anyway; I see people giving a general comment to my post like 'this board hasn't changed; it's just 1 or 2 people who differ from the easy, established code from the past'.

Well; I guess it only takes 1 person to break a chain or to cut a cord.

1 person can put just a little bit of poison in a bottle of clean, pure water, but that little bit changes the quality of the water tremendously...

Bye,

Roald

[Morn 7]

This isn't like a chain, one or 2 insulting people are easily ignorable.

[Guest]

When someone offends and hurts you on such a personal level it isn't that ignorable anymore. Bye, Roald

[Morn 7]

That's the wrong way around, you ignore it procisely because it is such a sad personal matter.

[Guest]

Hi Roald,

Don't take what I said so personally. I have been in the same situation as you, almost identical.

You can get through it, believe me.

[Guest]

Don't take what I said so personally.

Considering *what* you said I find it very difficult to *not* take it personally.

I have been in the same situation as you, almost identical.  

Looking at how you turned my situation into a joke or insult I find that hard to believe.

You can get through it, believe me.

This is a nice comment of you and a sign that you're willing not to further pursue your personal rampage on my private life and I thank you for that.

Bye,

Roald

[Ren 75]

i'm pretty disgusted at the fact that the members of this board think twice about contributing what they feel is valuable. Every one is valid here and we should respect them and their thoughts. No matter of religious background or whatnot.

I certainly hope that many members read this thread and think about their roles and contributions to the board. I sorely wish I was a part of this board way back when. But I can't change that and I still feel like I'm welcome here regardless of 'veteran status'.

As we get more new comers, I think we will have to show them what a really great and respectful board can be like. But with that said, there will always be someone or people that have differing views and I hope we can try to not let them change our attitudes.

[King Mark 2,924]

well,this board is still FAR better than any other film score board.

K.M.

[Guest]

Looking at how you turned my situation into a joke or insult I find that hard to believe.

A few years have seperated me from it. My perception is a bit lighter than it was. Hence, I can laugh at it now (my dilemna, not yours).